“It’s good to keep busy” actually makes me angry, an emotion that is laden as much with the prickings of ego as with irony. Ego, because I want to shout “Goddamit, I’m not trying to ‘keep busy,’ like poor old grandpa shuffling around his retirement condo, I have a career! I’m good at what I do! I’ve busted my ass to get the experience that I want to put to work!” Irony, because the execrable phrase “trailing spouse” originated in the blindness and ignorance of an age when women did the trailing, and when the notion of a dual-career family simply didn’t exist. All that said — keeping busy is the absolute least of my concerns.”
Benjamin Haag
FS spouse who blogs at Irreverence Abroad
Wherever I Go…There I Am